Have you ever asked yourself Why you keep allowing the same people to hurt you and disrupt your peace? (Family included)
My Friday Feels.... The Darkside of a “Big Heart”
This post/blog/book was sparked by a conversation that I had with someone this morning. I’m sharing it here because it’s simply not talked about enough from this viewpoint. Disclaimer: I’m no expert or therapist.
“Have you ever asked yourself Why you keep allowing the same people to hurt you and disrupt your peace? (Family included)
Why do you keep giving those same types of people the opportunity to disappoint you, let’s start from there. Do your best to understand you... vs trying to change, please, persuade or vilify.
Let’s be honest.. it takes you so long to see people for who they really are... even tho they show you over and over, blatantly and even disrespectfully. You have a big, kind, loving, and super forgiving heart that sees the good in people.. and wants the best for people... but it’s up to you to protect it and understand it vs. just sacrificing yourself over and over and ultimately using that as your excuse.. your big heart.
There is a darker side to having that big heart that nobody talks about and a lot of the time it’s rooted in trauma and fear...it looks like not having or operating without boundaries and consequences, people pleasing.. Stockholm syndrome... google it!
Please understand that Everyone can’t be reasoned with... or lead to middle ground... or to the “light”. Those are the people you avoid and take at full face value.... those are the people you save yourself from!
It’s not even about them at this point.....
For your own Peace and Protection, Believe patterns not promises or your hopeful projection of them.
I love you and I want you to love and respect yourself more.. you deserve better all the way around but you have to be an active participant in your own healing and be accountable for what you’re allowing or you’ll forever be the victim ❤️.”
-King Moe